Anthony, my husband, gave a speech the other night to a gathering of Jewish doctors. A neuro-surgeon came up to him afterwards to say, "I hear your wife is ill, what does she have?" "I can tell you exactly," Anthony said, "because you're a doctor. She has metastatic breast cancer, small tumours round her pancreas, and spots on her lungs."
And then the neuro-surgeon said this, which I have never heard from a breast cancer specialist, but pass on for what it's worth. He said: "you know, don't you, that women with metastatic breast cancer are a category all of their own - they live forever. It's become a chronic condition, they defeat all other expectations and categories."
No idea if he's right or not, no idea even if I find it a cheering thing to be told - the first thing you learn when you have this disease is to screen out other people's comments - just thought I'd pass it on, because it keeps popping back into my head ever since Anthony passed it on to me.